Racialicious: Some Notes on Rape Culture

britticisms:

1. She commented on my hair, how it was no longer straight, but acquiring that kinky, natural texture that we either love ferociously or feel annoyed with constantly as black women.
2. I said I thought it was fine. But also, that I was tired with people, with anyone commenting on my looks. One comment makes me believe there are other comments and things said that I am only unaware of because I am not there to hear them being said.
3. I said sometimes random strangers - random, aggressive, unknown men - on the street were the worst. I said that I often felt unsafe and that it was unfair to feel like this and unfair to expect that I should have to feel like this.
4. I casually mentioned something that happened to me.
5. “Well, were you dressed like that? In clothes like that?”
6. Clothes like that meant shorts and a blouse.
7. Clothes like that somehow excused the action.
8. Clothes like that somehow validated the situation.
9. Clothes like that meant I had to learn how to not be raped, and not expect to live in a world where others are told to not rape.
10. I started crying and then I heard, “If something had actually happened, you would have told us.”

experienced this FIRST HAND. And my old “Friends” that did this

you can still go fuck yourselves